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Understand. Trust. Love.

Understand. Trust. Love.

Often, what is hidden is the key to unlocking the life we want to live and the relationships we truly desire.

Welcome!

I'm Ilana

MFT REGISTERED PSYCHOTHERAPIST (ONTARIO) RELATIONSHIP and DATING COACH

I work with individuals and couples to grow their self-awareness, trust and compassion in their relationship within themselves and between each other.

I hold a Master’s in Marriage and Family Therapy and have taken trainings in many diverse evidence-based modalities and use the map of attachment science to guide my sessions. 

I love learning and growing with my clients.  Together, we learn to slow ourselves down to help live more empowered, authentic and meaningful lives and experience the satisfaction of true intimacy.

live fully, love deeply.

Relationships and human connection are a significant and influential part of a person’s life. The need to be truly seen, heard and understood is universal and is the foundation of living a happy and meaningful life.

I believe that everyone can live fully and love deeply. I would be honoured to walk alongside you on your journey to uncover what is hidden. This is an exciting and often demanding journey that helps a person understand, trust and love their own authentic self and build healthy and fulfilling relationships with others.

I believe you are worth the investment.

I can help explore these issues with you:

 

  • Living more authentically
  • Feeling more comfortable in your own skin 
  • Living with clarity and fulfillment
  • Appreciating your own innate self-worth
  • Struggles with trusting your own self 
  • Connecting with your own inner world 
  • Understanding your unique protection system
  • Increasing intimacy and vulnerability in relationships  
  • Struggles with trusting and committing to others 
  • Communicating effectively (especially in challenging relationships) 
  • Dating with purpose and direction 
  • Anxiety and depression
  • Confusion and self-doubt 
  • Shame and self consciousness 
  • Healing past trauma

About my sessions

Our sessions will be a respectful, safe and validating space to slow down, explore and share your inner world and fundamental beliefs.  

There will be no judgment and only curiosity to help you trust, grow and reclaim your true self.  

"The present moment is a snapshot of a flowing river."


When we hit a hard moment in the journey of life,
we can feel helpless and hopeless.

When we can see this moment as a snapshot in a flowing river,
we can access
more hope and empowerment.
Today is not the end of our story!!

How I can help

DATING AND RELATIONSHIP COACHING

Although all of us are looking to find our one special person, 

dating can be an opportunity to meet and connect with wonderful people along the way.

 

I am good. You are good. Are we good together?

Our job when we date is to be balance being discerning enough and open-minded enough

to find another perfectly imperfect person who feels just right for us.

While we won’t want to marry most of the people we meet, 

we can learn and grow from each experience.  

Our interactions with others provides rich data about our own inner world. 

The more we date in a calm state of mind with compassion, curiosity and courage 

the more we will reach clarity and peace of mind.   

 

I would be honored to help you shift dating from being 

a process that feels challenging, draining and unenjoyable 

to an experience that becomes pleasant, enlightening and empowering.

A process that culminates in a long term loving and healthy relationship.   

COUPLES COUNSELING

  

We begin married life together with dreams, hope and promises. 

As beautiful and sincere as those are, they don't help us navigate our differences and problems.   

Many problems are not going to have a perfect solution and often it is less important how big the differences are. 

Often the problem is not the problem, but rather what happens when we try talking about the problem. 

In those moments, we feel so different and that no matter what we say or do, we feel a sense of disconnection.   

There is a way for us to talk about our differences while maintaining a sense of connection and understanding. 

When we become aware of the dance we create together, clear away the emotional blocks each one of us uses to protect ourselves and feel safe to communicate and bring our fears to each other, we will feel seen and understood and experience the nourishment of a loving and secure relationship.  

These experiences provide us pathways for growth both as an individual and a couple. 

I would be honored to help you reignite those original dreams and hopes and help you invest in a relationship that feels even more authentic, loving and safe than how it started out. 


individual Counseling

  

Often, we choose to come to therapy because we have a conflict in our life.  

There is something we want in our life that we don’t have.  There is a struggle in our life that we want to fix. We may act in certain ways that later we feel uncomfortable and feel that the behavior is misaligned with our values.  

I would be honored to support you as you make sense of these conflicts in your life.  

Together we can deepen your understanding of your life experiences and how they formed who you are today. We can marvel and extend appreciation to the ways you learned to survive and thrive. Our systems are wired to protect us from pain and there is always a  positive intention to our reactions, but sometimes a negative impact in our life today. Some of our protective parts are not updated to our current age and stage in life.

Although we can’t change past events or even some current situations, we can help you slow down and become more aware of your triggers and what is happening inside in those moments.  

We can help you become more mindful, supportive and compassionate to all your parts. Renewing your connection with your own inner wisdom, courage and resilience, will help you show up more authentically and aligned with your values and build supportive and meaningful relationships with others. 

"The curious paradox is that
when I accept myself just as I am,
Then I can change."

- Carl Rogers

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